The Dark Side of Mindfulness
For some people, meditation is a soothing place in their mind where all the stress of the moment simply fades into oblivion. They discover it relieves their depression, anxiety, fear and stress.
That is not my experience with mindfulness. In fact, practicing being mindful causes my anxiety to increase which in turn makes me feel fearful. Now that I’m fearful I start to feel the stress build. The harder I try to meditate on the moment the more frustrated I become as a non-stop flow of the words “concentrate,” “shhhh,” and “be present,” invade my mind. (more…)
A person’s “heart withers if it does not answer another heart.” – Pearl S. Buck
It’s true, there are women out there who lack the ability to sympathize, empathize, and have low emotional intelligence scores. However, you hear this complaint far more often from women regarding men. Men typically just don’t get it, and if they do get it, they pretend they don’t because they don’t want to talk about it. “IT” is anything related to a feeling. Most men fall off the bottom of the emotional intelligence scale. (more…)
It’s not What You See in the Mirror, it’s How You Feel About What You See
I remember a time in my life when I avoided mirrors altogether. The reflection made me feel sad and lonely and I didn’t want to feel like that. I still felt sad and lonely because I was unable to escape those emotions. Still, I did not have to look in the mirror and see what they looked like. I did not believe I had anything worthwhile to offer the world so I tried my best to blend into the world around me. I was too embarrassed to stand out from the crowd and consequently became angry about the negative emotions that had invaded my mind. (more…)
There are people who are born to lead, people who learn to lead, and then there are the rest who are content to follow the person in charge. However, most people don’t blindly follow the leader. It’s important to know the leader is up to the job of taking charge and making game day decisions. What if you are in a leadership role but you don’t seem to be making an impact as a leader? Perhaps you are not confident in your ability to lead. Self-Confidence is an essential trait in an effective leader.
The Role of the Leader
The leadership role has changed over the last decade. Leaders are no longer in their position because of entitlement. It is not their job title or name, or birth order that opens the door to the leadership position.
Today, a good leader does not control those below him/her but rather motivates and empowers those that follow. This is done by fostering open communication. A confident leader is not afraid of differing opinions and in fact, welcomes them. Open communication promotes an environment where people are allowed to have a voice which gives rise to new innovations and ideas.