How solitude can make you a better person

How solitude can make you a better person

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Being alone does not have to be lonely. In fact, solitude can be good for your mental and physical health.

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How to survive marriage (or any relationship) with a negative person.

How to survive marriage (or any relationship) with a negative person.

Living with a person who is chronically negative is like tying a cement block to your foot and jumping into the middle of the ocean. You take your last breath and hope you will be rescued before you drown.

I am a positive person. I don’t see things as “all or nothing,” and I don’t find potential problems in every situation. I’m easy going and have learned that most things smooth themselves out just fine with minimal or no involvement from me. There isn’t much I consider a big deal, and I just generally don’t get upset about things that may or may not happen. Borrowing trouble is a waste of my good mood. I’ll adjust if I need to.

My husband is nightmarishly negative. He sees a potential downside to every single situation. If I give him good news, he will respond with “yea but…” and proceed to tell me all the reasons why my news isn’t so good after all. For example, my daughter who recently graduated high-school thought living at home binge watching Netflix was what you did when you didn’t have to go to school every day.

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The Dark Side of Mindfulness

The Dark Side of Mindfulness

The Dark Side of Mindfulness

For some people, meditation is a soothing place in their mind where all the stress of the moment simply fades into oblivion.  They discover it relieves their depression, anxiety, fear and stress.

That is not my expe2016-01-life-of-pix-free-stock-photos-lake-mountain-sunset-blakeverdoornrience with mindfulness. In fact, practicing being mindful causes my anxiety to increase which in turn makes me feel fearful. Now that I’m fearful I start to feel the stress build. The harder I try to meditate on the moment the more frustrated I become as a non-stop flow of the words “concentrate,” “shhhh,” and “be present,” invade my mind. (more…)

He’s Clueless to How You Feel?  The Reality of Emotional (or lack of) Intelligence

He’s Clueless to How You Feel?  The Reality of Emotional (or lack of) Intelligence

A person’s “heart withers if it does not answer another heart.” – Pearl S. Buck

It’s true, there are women out there who lack the ability to sympathize, empathize, and have low emotional intelligence scores. However, you hear this complaint far more often from women regarding men. Men typically just don’t get it, and if they do get it, they pretend they don’t because they don’t want to talk about it.  “IT” is anything related to a feeling. Most men fall off the emoji-1585401_1920bottom of the emotional intelligence scale. (more…)

Helpful Strategies to Overcome Low Self-Esteem

Helpful Strategies to Overcome Low Self-Esteem

 It’s not What You See in the Mirror, it’s How You Feel About What You See

I remember a time in my life when I avoided mirrors altogether. The reflection made me feel sad and lonely and I didn’t want to feel like that. I still felt sad and lonely because I was unable to escape those emotions. Still, I did not have to look in the mirror and see what they ldrug-addictionooked like.   I did not believe I had anything worthwhile to offer the world so I tried my best to blend into the world around me. I was too embarrassed to stand out from the crowd and consequently became  angry about the negative emotions that had invaded my mind. (more…)

The Role of Self-Confidence in Leadership

The Role of Self-Confidence in Leadership

There are people who are born to lead, people who learn to lead, and then there are the rest who are content to follow the person in charge.  However, most people don’t blindly follow the leader. It’s important to know the leader is up to the job of taking charge and making game day decisions.  What if you are in a leadership role but you don’t seem to be making an impact as a leader?  Perhaps you are not confident in your ability to lead.  Self-Confidence is an essential trait in an effective leader.

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The leadership role has changed over the last decade. Leaders are no longer in their position because of entitlement. It is not their job title or name, or birth order that opens the door to the leadership position.

Today, a good leader does not control those below him/her but rather motivates and empowers those that follow.  This is done by fostering open communication. A confident leader is not afraid of differing opinions and in fact, welcomes them.  Open communication promotes an environment where people are allowed to have a voice which gives rise to new innovations and ideas.

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